This is more than the enjoyment of sex.

This is being comfortable, happy and delighting in all the things that make you a woman or a man.

Do you dislike parts of who you are?

Do you judge certain traits as being weak, too womanish, to aggressive, too male, too feminine?

If you take a deeper look you may find that many of these judgments and messages are thoughts and beliefs that you were told or shown to be a certain way. This often happens while growing up. We mold ourselves after our parents, our peers and our friends. Those traits that we find admirable, we often like within ourselves but the ones we don't like may be judged the same way within us.

Take one thing you like about your femininity or masculinity. Think about it and feel the self- approve you give yourself. Go through a day in your life where you keep this trait in the forefront of your mind and see how you feel about the rest of yourself at the end of the day.

Surprisingly, you may find if you can accept and enjoy who you are that it gets reflected in sex as well. ( just so you know it is still part of this message)

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